Why Women Keep Dating the Wrong Guys
1.• I like that he’s so into me. Sure, it’s nice to have someone really like you, love you, and want you for a change, But you have to be into him too or it’s one-sided, and it will never last.
• I’m hoping he’ll change. Don’t try to fix or save him; he’ll resent you for it and you’ll be frustrated. Instead, find someone you accept "as is."
• He’s starting to change. But people don’t really change. Or if they do, they do so slowly. And only if they want to. And only for themselves, not for you.
• But he’s a really good guy. True, he has qualities you like, and he’s certainly not as bad as a lot of other guys.Think about the key qualities that you most value in a partner. If he doesn’t have them now, he never will.
• I’ve tried to break up with him, but he keeps coming back. Um…doesn’t this mean you don’t want to be with him? Here’s the thing: every guy knows exactly what to say and do to get a girl back when she leaves him. Don’t be fooled;
• I hate being alone. So get a dog. Sorry, but if you hate being alone, you should work on that part of yourself, not use a relationship to mask it.
• I’m getting older. And you feel desperate that you’re running out of time. You’re not getting older, you’re getting better, wiser and more conscious, and each passing year makes you better equipped to make the right choice in a partner.
Simple rule of thumb: You know this isn’t the relationship for you if you go back and forth in your mind, tell yourself you just have to get to know him better, or are waiting for him to change just one thing.
If you’re looking for reasons to like him, you don’t … If you don’t know if he’s the one, he’s not … If you aren’t sure if he’s the right guy, he’s the wrong guy.
If any of this rings true for you and your current relationship, don’t waste your time, be proactive rather than passive, run — don’t walk — to the nearest exit, and move on with your life.